About The Himeros Project
Desire, by design.
We guide men toward authentic self-discovery, connection and transformation through high-end somatic sex education immersions, rooted in the Desire by Design philosophy.
The name
The god behind the work
Himeros is the Greek god of sexual desire and passion, one of the Erotes, a group of winged gods associated with love, passion and erotic desire.
He represents uncontrollable desire, longing and the urge for intimate connection: not just physical lust, but emotional yearning and spiritual craving.
For us, Himeros signifies a journey back to passion, intimacy and wholeness. In his name, we embrace both the physical and emotional sides of desire, encouraging men not only to reconnect with their sexuality, but to cultivate deeper self-awareness and more meaningful connection.
The Desire by Design philosophy
Four questions at the heart of the work
i.
Who am I as an erotic being now?
ii.
What are my obstacles to accepting who I am?
iii.
How do I learn to express myself authentically?
iv.
How can I expand my range as an erotic being?
Once we discover our erotic signature, and who we are as erotic beings, we can use the framework of the Anatomy of Desire to bring our desires into the world.
A method for consent
The Anatomy of Desire
Six steps for knowing what you want, asking for it clearly, and staying in agreement with the people you share it with.
01
The Desire
Identify what you truly want.
02
The Ask
Communicate your desire to others.
03
The Negotiation
Explore new possibilities together.
04
The How
Take practical steps to realize your desire.
05
The Moment
Experience it fully.
06
The Check-In
Reflect, to refine future desires.
Developed by Cosmo Meens, with Casia Sobolewski
Founder & facilitator
Cosmo Meens
The thriving firekeeper and life force behind our men's retreats, Cosmo is a father and a husband. He graduated from the Somatic Sex Educator program in 2017 alongside his wife, Casia Sobolewski, a practitioner and co-founder of the men's retreats, and began a journey into the immense and life-giving field of supporting people in their pleasure.
Recruited by Pamela Madsen of Back to the Body immediately after he graduated, he worked there as a full-time women's erotic bodyworker from 2018 to 2026, logging over 2,000 hours in immersive containers with women, within a triadic model alongside female support and therapists.
He is an erotic philosopher, exploring who we are as people and how we can navigate life in a way that supports our highest thriving: in pleasure, in truth-seeking, in discipline, in love, in obsession, in connection.
He has facilitated men's retreats since 2019 (previously known as The Apollo Project), and continues to be inspired by the importance of male friendship, communication and vulnerability. He could spend days talking about how men are, rather than how they should be, and how we can support them in their highest integrity.
Supported by his wife and partner in divine union, Casia, he developed the Anatomy of Desire. In collaboration with Ori Dahan, this work unfolded into Desire by Design, the current iteration of the men's retreats.
The people who hold the work
Meet the team
Kris Kelkar
Facilitator
Amy Kebernik
Practitioner
Take the leap
Start with a conversation
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